Battling the Baby Blues…How to Cope?

In November of 2009, a most wonderful thing happened in my family. My adorable nephew John III (we call him Jack) was born! Now I had been around babies and children before. I did my share of teenage babysitting and I have plenty of friends who have taken the parenthood plunge. But I had the unique opportunity to be at the hospital when Jack was born. An hour after he was born I was one of the first people to hold him while his dad was out making the requisite good news calls and the nurses were tending to his mommy. I fell in love. I couldn’t believe that this little life in my arms was a member of my family, my godson, my nephew. He was (and still is) perfect. It was at that moment that my biological clock began to keep time in the back of my head…

My little buddy at 7 months

My boyfriend and I have never seriously considered having children. We are both adult students with full-time jobs and we enjoy having the freedom to pick up at a moment’s notice and go away for the weekend. But having a baby so close to us and seeing how beautiful the relationship is between Jack and his parents has caused us to seriously reconsider our position. But how do you know if it’s the right time? My boyfriend thinks we should both finish school. My head says yes but my heart is aching to hold my own child in my arms. I was at a local restaurant the other night having dinner and struck up a conversation with a woman who was out with her newborn granddaughter. What a tiny angelic little creature! On the drive home I had to explain to my boyfriend why I was in tears over a baby I didn’t even know.

So how do you know when the time is right? For every one person who says you should have all your ducks in a row before trying for a family, there is another who says you will never REALLY be ready and you should just go for it. I keep fighting the urge but I am starting to wonder why I am fighting at all? This instinct runs so deep…I would love to know how some of you have fought (or given in) to this force of nature. What are your thoughts? Any advice? I would love to hear from you…

Light, love, and positive thoughts!


3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Lamb
    Oct 02, 2010 @ 07:41:17

    I can completely relate to this! I’ve always been on the fence about whether or not to have a baby (ONE baby is my limit!) I’m 26, hubby is 28, and the longer we wait, the higher the chance of there being some kind of problem. I’m beginning to get the “now or never” feeling and can’t decide what to do!

    Working in a kids dental office doesn’t help. Just when I think I want my ONE baby, we have a day jam-packet with screaming, bratty, MONSTERS! Of course, the very next day, all the kids seem to be extra adorable. Sometimes, I get the feeling the universe is messing with me 😉

    Check back later today. I’m going to feature this post on Not “Baaad” Sundays with LambAround! 🙂


  2. Sarah
    Oct 02, 2010 @ 18:46:17

    Thanks Lamb! I appreciate the support 🙂
    It is really overwhelming sometimes how your biological feelings take control and your rational mind takes a backseat. I am hoping that I figure it out…and whatever is meant to be will happen.


  3. Hanna Villarrubia
    Oct 17, 2010 @ 22:09:15

    Hi there! I am your newest follower!!! I found you on the Sunday linky!! I love finding new blogs and your is lovely:)
    You can find me at

    Ugh sorry!!! I have had them a lot lately too! I have an 11 month old and am 7 months pregnant with another one!! I have to take time for myself or it gets worse. Hope you feel better soon


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